Born to Fail

I love writing, but most times I have a difficult time bringing myself to do it. Why? Not because I have too much to do- there are always moments I could squeeze it in (i.e. waking up early or getting off my damn phone).

We all experience this with different things. For some reason, we keep neglecting the things that bring us the most joy.

We love feeling vibrant and healthy, but choose to eat junk.

We love good conversation and connection, but we isolate ourselves.

We love an array of hobbies and activities, but we would rather stare at screens and see how others are doing it.

It’s not that we don’t want to! We do! We just choose to make other things that are not as constructive more important. Why? They are easy and they are safe. Doing the things we love can be hard. It takes time and dedication to commit to ourselves. On top of that, we have tried all the things we love- that bring us the most joy (not fleeting happiness. I’m talking the joy that fills your heart to the brim.) – numerous times.

You know what happened. Something came up and motivation was lost. Excuses began to be made. We decided, “It’s just the way I am. I am not that person. I am just made to live a sub-par life. God is cruel and life is a bitch.” I may be over exaggerating a bit- or not.

Either way it’s sliced, that cake of hope and a bright future was cut with the same knife: Fear. That is why we keep falling into the same routine of comfort and self-destructive tendencies, my friend.

Fear of change.

Fear of letting go of those old familiar habits.

Fear of losing our identities.

Fear of throwing ourselves out there and being vulnerable.

Fear of failing again (haven’t we failed enough?)

Time for a truth bomb: You are born to fail. We are all born to completely fail and smack our heads on rock bottom. We are also born to have our identity, and all the comforts we cling onto, ripped out from under our feet and thrown into a wood chipper. We are born to suffer, to scream, to cry, and to bleed our sorrows. There is no sugar coating it. It’s a part of life. You cannot experience life without that darkness.

Good news: We cannot stay down there forever. Once it is all experienced to the fullest- it must be embraced. We must embrace all that we are afraid of and have been avoiding for so long. Make friends with the monsters in the closet. Once that work is done, it is only up from there.

How do we get back up?

Just do it. We just need to have an idea of what we want to cultivate in life, and do it. It is by no means necessary to know what it is you will be doing the rest of your life, or to even know what direction you are headed in. It is about taking a step and following that foot with the other. We all have things we know we could be doing that have the potential of bringing us joy, but we cannot keep stopping ourselves from moving forward. Life is rich and abundant with opportunity and love. By releasing the old and choosing to no longer remain stagnant, we are opening ourselves up to the universe in a way that says, “I am ready for the blessings you have to offer.”

It will not be easy. We will keep failing, but just as we are born to fail, we too are born to succeed. We are born to live a life of peace, harmony, love, and transcendental bliss. We must first plow the fields, sow the seeds, and keep watering them as we brace whatever weather and pests come our way.

I wish you love and speedy recoveries from the low times as you embark on your personal journey. I am right Here with you. You are not alone in this.

P.S. If you have any questions, or need someone to talk to, feel free to contact me Here. If you are someone like me and need an accountability partner to stay focused and motivated, check out my coaching page Here to see what it is I do as a Health Coach and Accountability Partner. For deals, feel free to contact me.

How do you walk?

Recently I joined a women’s workshop that holds the intention of helping females tap into their divine feminine energy. This past Wednesday was the first meeting. There were several exercises we did to ground ourselves in the moment, one of which involved walking very slowly.

By slow, I mean slowwwww.

Taking several seconds to take a single step, and feeling each part of your foot as it meets the floor. We were told to have no destination in mind. Simply walk.

During this exercise, the teacher guided us in turning inwards to bring awareness to our bodies. This is when she asked a question that particularly struck me: “What are you leading with?”

As I stumbled about, trying to keep balance while walking the pace of a turtle, I began to take notice of my posture.

As I naturally moved through the room I noticed my head was pushed forward. In fact, my whole upper body seemed to be leaning forward as if it were trying to tell my feet “hurry up!”

Recently as I have been experiencing each day I noticed I am always preparing myself for the next moment. It has always been difficult for me to finish one thing to the fullest before moving to the next. I rarely finish books, I’m up and moving before I swallow the last bite of food, I trail off on another though in conversations before I finished the first.

This simple walking meditation allowed my awareness to be fully saturated in this particular habit o have been carrying. It allowed me to see how it was affecting me, and preventing me from remaining stable in the present moment.

After this realization came upon me, I was able to adjust. I gently pulled my head and shoulders back, and with the next step allowed my heart to lead the way. It now felt as if I was being guided by a force unseen. I became stable in my slow walk. I even had, dare I say, pep in my step. I was able to gracefully glide through the room, change direction, and do 360 turns without faltering.

I share this with you now because this moment was very impactful, and I feel it could offer great benefit to you.

Next time you are walking, bring awareness to your body. What is it you are leading with? How stable are your steps?

When I first began walking, I was leading with my mind. I was allowing the thoughts about the action to guide me. After the adjustment, my heart took the lead and I no longer had to question where I was stepping or how the nature of that step should look. It happened organically.

By bringing awareness to simple things like how you walk, you gain insight into deeper things, such as how you walk through life itself.

I encourage you to try this next time you have a spare moment, and feel free to share your experience in the comments.

I look forward to hearing from you.

4 Ways to Welcome the New Year

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

As we rolled into 2018, a few intuitions came to me about what is to come and how to prepare.

First: This year is going to be… amazing. We have been through so much craziness, we deserve a break, don’t you think? This year will deliver just that… sort of. It will be a break from all of the lower energies that have been swirling around, but we have a lot of work ahead of us! *rolls up sleeves*

This year we are being called back into ourselves and being thrown into action. It is time to stop ignoring the skeletons in the closet, and bring them out to be dusted off and danced with. We had better hurry though, because if that closet isn’t cleaned out in time, then all of the goodness coming our way will not be ready to be received.

It is also time to set action steps to help us reach the goals that have been swirling around in our minds. You may have already been doing a lot of hard work this past year, and that is great! The fruits of your labors will be delivered ripe and juicy soon enough.

If you put in the work now to release the old and start moving towards the new, you will see your dreams manifested in what seems like no time. Don’t get me wrong, it will be hard. It is work after all. However, once it is all said and you get the ball rolling, you will quickly adapt to this new positive lifestyle change and watch it snowball.

What can you do now to prepare for this new amazing life headed your way? Let’s get started:

 

Clean House

What better way to start off a new year than to make room for the new to appear? This is the perfect time to declutter, donate, dust and vacuum, reorganize, and anything else that needs to be done to make your space a sanctuary. Try burning some sage to clear out the negative vibrations and opening the windows for awhile, to allow the old stagnant air to get replaced with fresh air.

You can also take this opportunity to pamper yourself with a long shower, face mask, abhyanga (self-massage using warm oil), and any other practice you enjoy to feel the self-love!

As it is also after the holidays, this is a great time to start a gentle detox. Drink a lot of water (with lemon, preferably!), eat copious amounts of fresh fruits and veggies, and limit the consumptions of heavy foods such as meats and dairy. Make a commitment to yourself to cut out the refined grains and sugars, and anything heavily processed or fried in oil. Remember: eating healthy is a part of self care! By eating clean, you are cleaning yourself from the inside! Remember the saying “you are what you eat”? Your body utilizes what you put in it to create itself. Would you rather be made of fresh produce taken straight from nature, or heavily processed and genetically modified “food?”

 

Journaling

I can not imagine where I would be today without my journal. It has helped me the most out of any introspection practice I have tried. It is the perfect environment to release fears and start digging deep into what it is the soul has to say. Try out this guided introspection questionnaire [Found Here] to let go of the past and  set a foundation for the year to come:

  • Am I who I want to be?
  • Have I released the anger at my parents, my ex, myself?*
  • Do I worry too much what other people think?
  • Am I where I want to live?
  • What do I really want to do with my life?
  • What am I avoiding or afraid to look at?
  • Am I prioritizing my health?
  • How do I want to be remembered?
  • What’s something I have always wanted to do, but haven’t given myself permission to?

*Note: The new year is a perfect time to tie up loose ends. What words were left unsaid? What has been weighing on your tongue, but you never could get the words out? Consider writing letters to people or calling them to release any pent up emotions.

Invest in a planner

A planner is a valuable tool to keep the hustle and bustle of day-to-day life mapped out and manageable. Without a planner, I would lose control! Having one of these- and using it! – takes off a load of stress. It can also help to keep you accountable to yourself and your goals.

 

Consider a Health and Accountability Partner

How many times have you set a goal and fallen short? Are you passionate about your resolution this year, but can’t seem to find the motivation to follow through? This is something we all experience. It is not always an easy task to start new habits or projects. This is where a Health and Accountability partner could come into play. By partnering up with a certified coach, the mountain of to-dos seem less, and the life you want may be seen over the horizon. As a Health coach, I am trained to help people set reasonable goals to achieve their dreams. We also have the chance to dive deep into what could be holding you back from personally moving forward. Through looking into these fine details, you will have a clearer picture of where you are now and the ability to transform into who you are meant to be! More info here.

 

Good luck!

Cosmic Dance of the Wild Nature

I do come off as pushy.

I realize this.

I seem egotistical and selfish,

As if I think I know what is best.

Hear me now:

I do not know what is best for anyone.

I do not claim to know anything.

However,

That will not stop me from speaking my truth.

Go ahead, prove me “wrong.”

The darkness is meant to be explored 

 And I wish to dive deep.

 Until one is enlightened, 

 There is always self work to be done.

 I refuse to settle.

 I will kick up dirt in an eternal dance through the cosmic Inferno.

 The fire of life and death, 

creation and destruction, 

 And every other contradiction living in harmony.

I will rage like a lunatic 

in order to find peace.

I will scream in the name of divinity 

 To the very heavens, 

 Regardless if people care to listen.

 Shed your light 

 Shed your light 

 Shed your light 

 This Inferno is inside my heart 

Shed your light

Shed your light

Shed your light

 I am a spark 

 Growing in depth and magnitude 

 Shed your light 

 Shed your light 

 Shed your light

Ever-expansive;

Burning to be known at the core

Shed your light

Shed your light

Shed your light

The larger it grows,

The further away

The rest becomes.

Renounce

Renounce

Renounce

Strip it all away

To the very bones;

Dance on the ashes.

Renounce

Renounce

Renounce

Burn the ego with its

Fear, hate, and desires;

Dance on the ashes.

Renounce

Renounce

Renounce

Clarity reveals itself.

Freedom follows.

Self Care 101: Love and Balance Your Mind, Body, and Soul

Hello Sister Goddess!

First I want to say thank you for your interest in learning more about this program, what it has to offer, and how it will help you transform into your absolute best and highest self. This program has been a work in progress for several months now and is created for you!

I know what it is like to feel detached and empty. I use to constantly search for meaning and purpose in external things, whether it be a job, others, material objects, media, you name it. I use to constantly search and never feel full no matter what I did. When I made the decision to be happy two years ago I also made a commitment to discover “who am I?” At the time I didn’t know what that entailed. As I have grown closer to my Self with each passing day, I feel ready to share with you how I have overcome an endless search in the void to find the inner light. The light that is true being and fulfillment.

This may all sound heavy and complicated, but I promise it does not have to be! I am here now to make it very simple for you and support you along this mystical and worthwhile journey.

“Self Care 101: Love and Balance the Mind, Body, and Soul” is a 6-Month program designed awaken the energetic blueprint of your Being. It is a program that will focus on each divine aspect (the mind, body and soul) and teach you how to build a harmonious foundation upon them. Through love and understanding of your own life you will be able to take the tools presented to you and start experimenting to find what resonates with you, so that you too may begin living a life in line with your divine purpose.

“What should I be expecting for this first meeting?” I’m glad you asked.

We will open the meeting with introductions and allow everyone to get to know each other a bit better. I also have a Facebook group for you all to connect before the meeting. I will give an overview of who I am, my intentions for this group, and what the lesson outline looks like. I will leave space for any questions or comments afterwards and then we will all connect more over delicious high-vibrational meals (keep it plant-based!).

There are 5 more sessions planned after the initial meeting around the new moons each month. Each meeting will start at 6 PM and run for an estimated 2 hours.

 

This all sounds amazing, but how do I sign up? Contact me via Facebook or by email (spoonfulofgratitude@gmail.com) and tell me your name, email, phone number, and if you plan on bringing friends or a dish for the potluck.

I do ask a $10 donation which will go towards the curation of coming group sessions.

In summary, I have planned this program for you because I felt a call to action. There is a major shift happening in the world and we need to be ready for it. This group has been designed to bring together like-minded women to release the burdens that have been holding them down and make room for positive growth. You will be surrounded by open hearts, valuable tools to implement desired changes, and the support you need to crush your goals. In this first meeting, we will each have time to share our stories and things we wish to cultivate more of in our lives. We will set goals, hold each other accountable, then check in on and evolve those goals as we grow throughout the program!

Are you ready to grow into your best self? RSVP today and share with your fellow goddesses!

Banana Island Detox & What It Taught Me

For the past 7 days I have been on a cleanse called banana island. I wasn’t sure why I was doing it, I just felt like it was necessary at the time.

Banana Island is a detox where you eat only bananas and greens for a set period of time.

I had been eating 20 bananas a day minimum, along with a head of romaine. I was also drinking a gallon or more of water (most days).

Around days 4-6 I experienced gas and bloating. I realized later this was due to a few reasons:

  1. The bananas weren’t full ripe. I couldn’t find brown spotty ones and settled for bright yellow. This caused constipation.
  2. I was not drinking enough water. Once I realized this and started drinking more water, all gas and bloating diminished.

Takeaways:

  1. If you are to embark on banana island, prepare ahead of time with plenty of spotty brown bananas. If they aren’t ripe and spotted, the starches have not yet been converted to sugars and are much more difficult for the body to break down and use for energy.
  2. Always drink enough water. It is much more important than the food you are ingesting.

Overall my experience was very rewarding. I had more energy, I felt stronger and could go for longer while working out, and I was also much more peaceful. I typically have crashes midday and am easily susceptible to mood swings.

However, I did experience a drastic shift on day 7.

Day 7 I was already off as I was feeling a bit sleepy. Later on in the day a coworker started talking calories. Calories are never something I worry about. I am more of the “eat when you’re hungry, stop when you’re full” kind of person. I adopted this mindset after years of binge eating disorder followed by a physically and emotionally exhausting period of time where I… you guessed it: counted calories.

I won’t get into the details of the conversation, but basically I had already met my RDA of calories after lunch time.

My first instinct was to get angry. I had spent my whole life with an eating disorder I thought I was over and now I have someone telling me that scientifically speaking, it was the opposite case.

I was in disbelief. I became stubborn in my mind and let this fester for hours. I kept asking myself, “why am I so mad about this? If I know I am doing what is best for me and I have good intentions then why should it matter? All I am doing is listening to my body, I know what’s best. If I know what’s best then why am I so angry? Why can’t I let this go?” and so on…

When I was eating I never felt a definitive “full” feeling. I stopped once I was satisfied and ate again when I felt my tummy asking for more. Could I have been eating too much? Possibly. It could have also been what was causing constipation and I didn’t realize it. Yet, it still felt like something deeper….

Then, it dawned on me. It didn’t matter how much I was eating so much as it mattered why I was eating.

When I started this journey, I felt a bit lost. I felt like I hit a fork in the road, but both of the roads had a very dense fog on them. I had no clue what way to go. By the end of my journey, the fog began to lift and I realized it was the same road all along. The problem was that I was running.

Sometimes I can be a bit of an escapist. Two popular tools I abuse are my phone…and food. When there is something coming up that I am not quite ready to face I will avoid it at all costs. I can not yet answer why. I often envision the life I want for myself, the things I would love to create, manifest, and mold into reality. I can see it all perfectly. In all this daydreaming I easily lost sight of my passion. I forget to hold dear the drive that can get me to where I want to be. I love to think about what my life could be, but when it comes to putting in the work? Nah… forget about it…  I’ll just eat/check instagram instead.

On Day 7 I was faced with a harsh reality check. When I arrived home from work with my last banana meal in the seat next to me, along with my keys and phone, God gave me a kick in the ass. I unlocked the passenger door before getting out of the car so I could pick up all my stuff. When I got out on the drivers side I subconsciously locked the car and shut the door.

Well, Shit.

Now all of my stuff was locked in the car. My last bundle of ripe bananas, my phone, keys, my highly perishable probiotic! Woe is me! Whatever will I do now?!

I walked to the lawn and laid down in the sun defeated. Okay lord, you win. I am done with my consumeristic ways from now on. I will face my reality and start living in line with my passions. You sent a sign and it has been heard.

This isn’t the first time something like this has come up for me. By this point it was becoming common knowledge to me that when I focus on creating and doing things I love, food and all other distractions become secondary. When I focus on painting, for example, hours could go by before food even crosses m mind. During the duration of this cleanse my main focus was all about food. “Do I have enough bananas? Am I hungry again or thirsty? Did I eat enough for the day?” I let my self and fall on the back burner. I forgot about my own desires and passions.

Thankfully, my brother was home to let me in the house (my mom wouldn’t be home for another 5 hours), so I could get a small start on loving myself again. I was able to change out of my work clothes, do yoga, clean my room, and watch The Matrix. I had never seen The Matrix until that moment; It was further testament that I need to start believing anything is possible, and I am capable of doing whatever I put my mind to.

Who knew that deciding to eat only bananas for a week would help me realize that I was subconsciously avoiding self-love and living in line with my passions? Who knew that by doing a cleanse, I was really avoiding myself? And how ironic that what really got cleansed out wasn’t necessarily physical toxins, but mental ones? Negative self-talk and depressive thinking.

It’s always a good idea to cleanse every once in awhile. Even if you’re the healthiest person alive, you may still find that there could be some benefit behind it. Just remember to stick it through and have faith in yourself. You can achieve anything you put your mind to.

 

P.s. be sure to drink enough water.

Why to Cleanse

Last week I made a post on how to know when it’s time to cleanse and I talked a little about the cleanse that I am currently on. If you have not read it you can check it out HERE.

Now I will go over some of the things I have learned so far, how this cleanse has made me feel, pros and cons, and share a yummy recipe to satisfy the sweet tooth.
I am on the 6th day of this cleanse, so halfway through. The hardest thing about it is remembering to take the herbal supplements. I will probably have an extra day or two worth of pills to take after my 12 days are up. Another difficulty was adjusting to the foods recommended. My diet before this cleanse was mainly bananas and dates, and both of those are not recommended during the time of cleansing due to their higher sugar content.

Having a limited diet is also a blessing in disguise. It opened a doorway to a whole new abundance of recipes to try out and I have been enjoying experimenting with more vegetables and different foods than I would normally eat.

As for how I have been feeling, to my surprise, I have had a lot more energy. I have moments where I feel a bit more tired or my stomach starts to hurt a bit, but then it is quickly over after I realize I just need to go to the bathroom. This detox has opened my eyes to how connected energy and the gut truly are. If the digestion is sluggish, or there is a buildup from eating foods that are difficult to process, it will decrease energy tremendously. Forty-five to seventy percent of daily energy, on average, is put towards processing food. This percent increases as we eat heavier and more processed foods.

On this cleanse, I have been eating mostly raw, all whole foods; saving the cooked and heavier foods for the end of the day. On the days when I experimented with eating cooked foods for breakfast I found my energy levels started to dwindle much sooner.

Some of the benefits I have experienced on this cleanse thus far include: a LOT less bloating, clearer skin, clearer thinking, connection to the body and its natural signals, better sleep, newfound motivation and passion.

Some of the cons: moments of bloating and brain fog before using the bathroom. … That’s it. I feel better after going to the bathroom every time.

I recommend everyone try out a cleanse at least once. There are so many different kinds of cleanses out there. There are even one-day resets for those of you who feel you do not have the time or feel timid on making the commitment.


Reasons I recommend a cleanse:

  1. It connects you to yourself.
    • A cleanse allows you to tune in to your bodies natural signals.
    • It releases old baggage so you are able to focus on here and now.
  2. It is an act of self love.
    • A cleanse is a commitment to yourself.
    • By turning the focus inward, you are acknowledging that there is work to be done, and by releasing all of the old build up you will be able to start fresh and grow anew!
  3. You will feel so much better!
    • Low energy? Low libido? Yeast problems? Gassy or bloated? Angry for no reason? Cleanse.
    • A cleanse is more than just clearing old waste and toxins from the body. It is clearing all of the negativity that has made its home in your body through time. As we progress through life, we carry old burdens with us. A cleanse can bring those up and release them leaving you feeling much lighter.

If you are thinking of embarking on a cleanse, here are my top tips to make it easy and painless:

  • Stay hydrated. Always keep water on you. If you don’t drink plenty of water, any toxins being kicked up will just sit inside of you leaving you feeling fatigued and sick.
  • Go at your own pace. If you feel you are only capable of a one day cleanse, then start there. We are all in a different place, and some may have a lot more toxicity built up than others. Release what you can handle and do not try to tackle it all at once.
  • Eat plenty of whole foods, low-sugar fruits and vegetables. Keep the heavy foods (starchy, protein-rich, fatty) to a palm sized portion and see how you feel from there. Keep the focus on high-fiber fruits and vegetables with a high water content.
  • Rest. It is easy to feel overwhelmed by the noise of daily life, but if you feel you need to take some time to relax and be with yourself, do it. Light some candles, take a bath, read a good book. Whatever it takes to keep you grounded and at peace.
  • Ask for support. Sometimes our biggest downfall during a cleanse can be being around others who are not on one. Make sure the people you surround yourself with know about and respect what you are doing for yourself. That way you feel supported through the process and will feel less tempted to go off-course.
  • Forgive yourself. If you mess up once, do not worry about it. I have already forgotten the pills I was supposed to take at least 3 times, and I ate grapes (a high-sugar fruit, not on my acceptable list) on the first day! That did not stop me from striving forward towards my goal. Never let a bump in the road keep you from yours.

Recipe

Sweet Potato and Millet-meal

Serves: 1

1 Cup cooked Millet
1 Small baked Sweet Potato
Almond Milk, to cover
2 Tbsp Ground Flax
1 Tbsp Almond Butter
Dash of Vanilla
Generous shakes of Cinnamon

Directions: Stir the millet in a container with the flax, vanilla, almond milk, and cinnamon. Cover and leave in the fridge overnight, or while the sweet potato cooks. Cook the sweet potato whole in a glass baking dish for an hour at 300 degrees (quicker at higher temperature, but not as good for you.) Right before the potato is done baking, put the millet concoction into a small pan and warm on low. When the sweet potato is done, cut it in half and drizzle almond butter in the center. Plate it up and Serve!


 

Signs You May Need to Cleanse

How do you know when it is time to cleanse?

Here are a few warning signs:

  • Feeling heavy and lethargic
  • Being stuck in cyclic patterns
  • Dropping everything
  • Bump into every object and wall you pass
  • Difficulty thinking or talking clearly
  • Bloated or gassy
  • Stressed constantly, even if there is nothing to be upset about
  • Yeast overgrowth (itchy down under)
  • Lack of motivation or apathetic

 

I could keep going on, but I think you get the idea. It could be time for a cleanse when you have a feeling that something is out of balance.

 

Yesterday’s Full Moon had a theme of Transformation and Healing.

Lately, I have been feeling out of balance. I found this to be the perfect time to embark on a cleanse. On the Full Moon, I decided to dry fast the whole day and decide where to go from there.

During this fast a couple things came up for me:

I have been very hard on myself and need to learn balance between resting and working;

And…

Emotions are meant to be felt, not bottled up or hidden. On that note, they are also not meant to be dwelled on. It is perfectly acceptable to not be super happy and enthusiastic all the time; it’s exhausting. It’s also not ideal to be upset or negative all of the time. What matters is to find a peaceful balance between the two to return to once the positive and negative have been experienced.

 

Today, I have decided to continue my cleanse. I woke up feeling a bit lighter emotionally and spiritually, but physically I could tell there is work to be done as I am still quite heavy. I am no longer fasting, as I do lead an active lifestyle and work full time. I will be using the Wild Rose Herbal D-Tox for the next 12 days. I invite you to find a cleanse that works for you and join me in this venture on the road to overcoming obstacles and healing from the inside out. It doesn’t have to be intense or cost a lot of money. It could be as simple as cutting out all processed foods for a week and drinking 2 litres of water a day. We are all in different places. It’s important to acknowledge where you are at now, and what you feel ready for.

The focus on this cleanse will be to drink plenty of water, eating only fresh fruits and vegetables, and to eat foods that are mainly alkaline. I will check in throughout the cleanse with updates and inspiration, so stay tuned and make sure to be following me on this blog or other social media (found at the top and bottom of this page).

If you would like to eat according to the detox I am using, I will include a link to the PDF file of the food list HERE.

 

We are blessed with these bodies to embark on a human experience, filled with the good and bad, always in a state of growing. Throughout a 70 year lifespan, a single person clears at least 25,200 lbs of waste from the body. On top of this, we are constantly storing gunk from a lot of the foods people are not meant to eat and energies from our environment, other people, and our own emotions. It is vital to take care of these vessels and give them the love they deserve for working so hard to keep us going. It is time to check in with ourselves and take notice of what the body, and intuition, is telling us.

What is yours telling you?

How To Live in the Flow of Abundance

On Abundance.

A small word with Infinite meaning, as Vast as the Universe itself.

The Universe is Abundant.

Abundant in Galaxies, Stars, Planets…

Of that Universe one would find our home planet: Earth.

Earth is Abundant in Trees, Water, Plants, Animals, and People.

Of those People, one would find You.

Abundant in Life, Love, Cells, Atoms, and Stardust.

You are born of Stardust.

You are as Infinite as the Universe itself,

Because

You are the Universe.

You are Abundant.

“I look up at the night sky, and I know that, yes, we are part of this Universe, we are in this Universe, but perhaps more important than both of those facts is that the Universe is in us. When I reflect on that fact, I look up—many people feel small, because they’re small and the Universe is big, but I feel big, because my atoms came from those stars.”

Neil deGrasse Tyson

 

In my last post I talked about how to clean our slate, so that we may be open to the abundance of the universe. Now, I would like to share how to live within the flow of abundance.

Whether you realize it or not, you are already in the flow of abundance.

When we focus on the negatives in our lives, it starts to accumulate this pile of dirt in front of us that grows taller and taller until we can’t see all of the blessings before us. We have to push this dirt pile forward while we make our way through life, making it a lot harder to be fully open to the loving hug the universe is trying to give us. This means that by focusing on negatives instead of the positives, we are closing ourselves off to more positives and abundance. 

Thankfully for you, you read my last post, so your dirt pile is no longer there. The question is, how do we keep this pile from forming again and remain open to universal abundance?

It’s simple. Almost annoyingly so. All you have to do is know that you are abundant.

Say it with me:

I am Abundant.

In this consumeristic society it’s easy to get caught up in the feeling of lack. People often focus on everything that they don’t have, wants and needs, and things they want to change. To be and feel abundant, you have to shift the focus from what you do not have to what you do have. Focus on being grateful for all of the blessings that surround you, big and small.

If you have gone most of your life focusing on lack, this can be a difficult practice to get in the habit of. The Ego LOVES convincing you everything is going wrong and the world is pitted against you. In fact, it thrives on it. It wants to push you down so it can grow bigger and stronger along with that dirt pile. I’m here to tell you: don’t let it win. One thing can beat it, and that is love. Love for yourself and all of the amazing things this universe has to offer.

Here are some practices you can try out to start shifting your focus to gratitude and abundance:

Make a list of all that your are grateful for.

This can be anything. The stars in the sky, that strand of hair that falls perfectly, the trees, family and friends, that job offer you got last week. Anything. No limits, not even the sky! Be grateful for that too! Even better would be to get in the habit of doing this every day. I like to start my day by journaling 10 things I am grateful for. Even if they are repeats from old lists or a bunch of little things.

Wake up every morning, throw your hands into the air and yell “THANK YOU!” to the Universe.

This may seem silly or embarrassing, but I promise you it is nothing short of effective. When we can start our day off the bat with gratitude, it sets the tone for how the rest of your day is going to go.

Meditate on it.

You don’t have to go full out Buddha under the Bodhi tree chanting “Om” to meditate. Meditation is in every moment. You can meditate doing the dishes. It’s simply being present in the moment. I use this as a tool to focus on gratitude by setting a mood for myself, mainly in the morning or before bed. I make a soothing tea and sit somewhere comfortable and relax while I listen to the world around me. From here I’ll start thinking of all of the things I am grateful for in that moment. The sound of birds or crickets outside, the light or the sun or moon shining through the window, the clean and cooling breeze, the smell of tea wafting up into the air….

Create an Altar.

Simply create a space on a table somewhere you’ll pass by often and fill it with things you love. Fresh flowers, and statue of your favorite animal, pictures with friends and family, your favorite smelling incense or a potpourri bowl, some crystals… let your imagine run wild.

Write it on your mirror.

Where is one of the first places people go when they wake up? The bathroom. Where are they bound to revisit again throughout the day? The bathroom. Write “I am Abundant” on your mirror, perhaps with a little list of things you are grateful for, and repeat it whenever you visit the bathroom. Mirrors are also powerful and magical tools for amplifying and reflecting back energy. If you look in the mirror and tell yourself you are abundant, it will reflect that abundance right back to you!

Create a Mantra.

You can come up with your own or simply say “I am Abundant.” Whenever you are feeling small, lacking, or just need a kick back into the flow- tell yourself you are abundant. As many times as you need to until you not only know it, but feel it.

Clean Your Slate

In honor of the New Moon last night, I am going to do a two-part “series” on how to release all that has been holding you back, and how to open yourself back up to the natural flow of abundance. First, on how to let go of what has been holding you back:

It’s easy to get caught up in the negatives. People are like sponges. We absorb the environment we dwell in at any given time. Have you ever walked into a room where a fight just happened, and were able to feel the dense heaviness of the air?

We are constantly reminded of all of the bad things happening in the world. When’s the last time you turned on the news and heard mainly happy and uplifting stories? As we are constantly surrounded by all of this negative energy, it starts to build up and weigh us down. We start to forget the good things and focus on all of these negatives we are faced with.

There may be things building up in your own life; “My job is too stressful, I have no time for myself, there’s dishes in the sink, and when is the last time I had a vacation?!”

Then there’s what’s going on in everyone else’s life. How often do you have conversations with someone and they tell you all of the wonderful things in their life, rather than the drama and the drama of other people they know?

One common thing I hear about these behaviors is, “I just need to vent.”

Venting is a wonderful tool to work through all of the clutter in life and let it go, but people often confuse venting and complaining.

First, let’s get clear on that:

vent
  1. give free expression to (a strong emotion).
    Synonyms: release, let out, pour out, express, discuss, talk over, communicate

complain

  1. express dissatisfaction or annoyance about a state of affairs or an event.
    Synonyms: protest, grumble, whine, bleat, make a fuss

By venting your emotions, you are taking the initiative to work through them with someone to get them off your chest. Complaining, however, is the manifestation of negative emotion towards the circumstance.

By complaining, you are essentially holding in and growing what is upsetting you by throwing more dirt on top of it. If we begin to look at our troubles with an inquisitive and open mind, then it will make it a lot easier to overcome them and take the weight off.

The best way to vent is to sit down with someone you trust, and ask them to listen with an open heart and open mind while you speak what has been troubling you. This could be a friend, family member, or you could even consider investing in a health coach.

As a health coach, I am trained in the top coaching methods and create a safe space where you can feel comfortable to express your thoughts, feelings, and concerns.

Many people in today’s world will hold things in because they feel they do not have this safe space, and are insecure about their own feelings. I spent a large majority of my life holding in everything until it came out as anger towards the people I love. It took a long time to learn that how I felt was valid, and there is no reason to fear being judged or looked down upon for how I feel. The same goes for you.

It is vital to have people in your life where there is a mutual love and trust. Create a space for yourself that is free of judgement, so that you may express yourself freely and continue to grow past any dirt that may try holding you down.

Some people may not yet have a safe space like this. You may feel there is no one you have a strong enough bond with to feel comfortable expressing yourself without being judged or having your feelings dismissed. I have been here too, and there are ways to work through it.

Journaling is one of the most important things you could do for yourself. It is completely private and a blank canvas to project anything and everything that’s been on your mind. Journaling has helped me overcome depression and anxiety, get through college, and release the anger issues I have had since childhood.

Praying is another powerful practice. I have an altar set up in my room where I can sit at night and release any fears or worries to the Divine, so that I may fall asleep knowing that I am safe and provided for. Sometimes, I’ll even have a dream that night about overcoming what it was that had been bothering me!

Any form of art, from painting to poetry, can also be helpful in projecting your worries. Experiment with different methods and find what works best for you.

When we take the time to check in with ourselves and notice what has been weighing us down, it helps us to better understand ourselves and our fears. As we learn to release these things, it will open doors to new opportunities in life and allow us to continue growing into the beautiful, abundant beings we were born to be.

It’s okay to feel lost or stuck sometimes, it happens to all of us. Just know that it doesn’t end there. A flower doesn’t stop growing once it hits the pavement. It breaks through that shit until it can feel the sun shining down upon it, allowing it to bloom into its fullest potential. You are that flower. Get ready to bloom.

 

Even flowers growing in rock crevices

Keep an eye out for the second part to this article on how to manifest more love and abundance  into your life.