The Way We Give

I made it.
I have it all.
The perfect body,
The perfect house,
The perfect vehicle,
The perfect wardrobe,
The perfect career,
The perfect spouse,
The perfect family,
The perfect friend group,
The perfect material life.
Everything is as I imagined.
Everything is exactly as I want it.
Now what?

 

Now that we’re entering holiday season, things can start to get crazy. This is a time when people are encouraged to focus on love and giving. Loving friends, family, strangers, taking extra time for self care. Giving back to the community and those in need, along with giving to those we cherish in our own lives.

In today’s age, much of this perspective has been skewed and tainted. With Black Friday and Cyber Monday, the rush to buy buy buy more more more to be able to please others is constantly on our minds.

I wrote this short light-heart poem to bring attention to this mindset and hopefully bring awareness to this dis-ease that currently occurs in the world.

It all comes down to our perception of love. People often see love through the eyes of a consumerist society. It is often related to giving material gifts, giving our own bodies (a talk for another time), or even just saying “I love you,” along with other terms of endearment. Though there is a time and place for these things, it is only looking at a miniscule, finite fraction of the equation.

Growing up, I have received many gifts I had been grateful for the day I received them, but it took little time for them to be erased from my memory. I wouldn’t be able to tell you have of the things I had received growing up. It’s not that I was unappreciative. Simply, the gift itself was insignificant compared to the gesture itself.

The act of giving is an act of love. It’s not about how much we give, rather it’s why. Many will say “I want so-and-so to be happy, so I’ll give them what they want.” What we should be asking is “What can I provide to help the greatest good?”

And “What can I do to raise this person to their highest self?” This is where the love can make itself known to the highest degree.

It’s not the gift itself so much as the intention behind it. As I said, it’s the “why” we are giving.

This time of year has emphasis on “holiday spirit” for a reason. It is a time to nourish the SPIRIT. The soul as individuals and a collective. The intention behind giving, the “why,” should be that which nourishes the soul. Instead of stressing over the debt you’ll be in if you try to make everyone happy with things that will cause a moment of fleeting happiness… maybe it’s time to consider how you can bring, as the song goes, “Joy to the World.”

Below are three lists that could inspire thoughtful acts of giving.

 

Projects For The Season:

  • Baking cookies and sharing them with the community
  • Hosting a bake sale and giving them money to charity
  • Donate old toys and clothes to local shelters (animal shelters are in need too!)
  • Visit nursing homes brighten up their day with board games and song
  • Volunteer at a soup kitchen and/or donate to food banks
  • Can food drives

 

For Day-To-Day Life:

 

  • Pay for the person’s coffee in the line behind you
  • Packing care kits for the homeless and keeping them in your car (think water, warm hats and gloves, trail mix, etc)
  • Leave kind notes on people’s windshields
  • Smile at strangers
  • Hold doors open for people
  • Tell someone the compliment you thought upon seeing them
  • Write letters to people who have positively impacted your life
  • Write letters of forgiveness and make amends to loose ends in your life
  • Bake treats to share with coworkers
  • About to complain on Facebook? Post something positive and inspiring instead

 

For Loved Ones:

  • A painting
  • A trip to a favorite place
  • Plants (the gifts that give 😉 )
  • A date
  • Cooking and sharing a homemade meal
  • Something knitted or crocheted
  • Anything crafted. Check Pinterest for thousands of DIYs
  • Giving a massage
  • Writing a loving letter showing appreciation for their presence in your life and reading it to them
  • Poetry
  • A mix tape

 

Use your imagination. Think about what is most needed in your community, the lives of those around you, and the world at large. Team up with others or make it a family event to give back this year. There is a lot that can be accomplished if we all take the time to focus on spending our energy on providing what the world needs, rather than spending money on unneeded material possessions.

I’m not saying material possessions are bad, per say. They can be highly beneficial! I.e. I’m asking for a planner this year with inspirational daily bible quotes in it. It all boils down to what the impact of the gift will have on the individual. How it could affect their lives and stir the soul inside of them.

If they need a new pair of socks, great. Get that. I just encourage you to put extra thought into what you give this year, and consider those who do not have access to that new pair of socks.

 

Do you have any ideas on how to give back or experiences worth sharing? Leave them in the comments below!

The Purpose of Life

In this dimension you are driving around a body, a gift from the Universe that you do not get to keep, and nothing you do actually matters. Your dreams and what you want for yourself are so important, yet no matter what happens your soul will eventually leave your body and this world behind. What matters most is the impact you have made in this world around you. The impression you have left on this earth and the quality of your loving interactions with other beings. The outcome of this existence is entirely up to you.

What you think, what you do, the life you live is all for you to design. Feelings will come and go and are meant to be felt, good and bad. Events will come and go and all you can do is choose how to react in that moment. This existence is here for you to experience and learn from. Grow in knowledge and you grow closer to the divinity inside of you.

You cultivate the essence, the vibrational frequency, of your existence. You were born into this world to rise into the highest frequency. To ascend dimensions, leaving behind all concepts of space, time, any and all attachment. You were born to return to the Divinity that gave you life and teach others to do the same. That is your life purpose.

At the same time, life is entirely what you make it. You are a spark from the blazing inferno of God. The creator, preserver, and destroyer. You are always evolving, burning away what no longer serves you and rising from the ashes.

You are an infinite, eternal being crafted from star dust and love by the divine mother herself. You are on this earth for a reason. You are part of a cosmic manifestation that reaches on without beginning or end, constantly changing and growing. In every moment you are reborn. You have the ability to decide what you wish to do with every moment presented to you and align it to your self; your dreams and aspirations.

What do you want for yourself? Where do you see yourself in the future? If you feel you don’t have an answer then I ask you this: What is the person you try to be? Who is it that you present to other people in person or on social media? What is the life you try to convince people that you have?

It’s time to start asking yourself:

What am I doing?

Why am I doing it?

Is it in line with my Divine Purpose?

When you can do this, you will be able to filter out the distractions and start living for the self. Become self involved in your way of living. Some may think of it as selfish, but I look at it as an act of self love.

Start questions who it is you truly are. Stop focusing on the idea, the false ego. You are not a doctor, a football player, a chef, a college kid, a hipster, a lgbtq+ person, a high-stress individual, an alcoholic, you are not even this body! You are something so much more than that and it is entirely up to you what you wish to do with this spark of divinity within you. You have the right to choose if you want to live in line with your purpose, with your SELF and your TRUE NATURE, or whether you would like to continue in the endless consumerist, drama and sex-driven society that loves to keep you distracted from what truly matters.

You are not who you identified as 10 years ago, 10 months ago, yesterday, not even 10 second ago. You can be anyone you want to be whenever you desire to do so. The past does not define you. People’s ideas of who you are that were shaped by past interactions DO NOT DEFINE YOU.

You are divine. You are love manifested into this world. The vessel you experience this world through is made of materials that have been recycled for eons and will continue to be recycled for eons more. You hold the infinite powers of creation in side of you. It is your very essence. Connect with it. Allow it to grow and cultivate that love around you. Pour it out into everything you do, everywhere around you. You were born to live the life of your dreams and inspire others to do so, purely by living true to who you are! Forgive yourself. Release what is holding you down. In this second, you have been reborn. Who do you want to be?

If this is something that resonates with you, but feel you need help falling back into alignment, I do offer several Soul Coaching programs. Each program is designed to fit your lifestyle. Together we can clear away the mountain that has been holding you down and start building the foundation that you can grow and thrive upon. You can schedule a health consultation here to see if this is something that aligns with your purpose. Coaching is available in person and online.

The Importance of Visualization

Growing up in school, if you’re anything like me, you may have been scolded for gazing out windows and daydreaming about who-knows-what. Completely and blissfully lost in thought. Maybe it was about what you would do when you got home, the future you envisioned for yourself, or maybe you had your own fantasy world to escape to.

As we grow into adulthood, we often lose our imaginations to the clutches of drama, media, and the daily stressors of life. It may have even been taught out of you by teachers that scold the class into paying close attention to the lessons; Essentially forcing us to forget our dreams in favor of the wishes and will of society… but we won’t get into that.

What if I told you that letting your imagination roam free could improve your quality of life and manifest your dreams into reality?

Studies [1, 2] have shown that daydreaming can enhance creativity, memory, inventiveness, and overall wellbeing. It can increase positivity, and aid in planning and organizing thoughts.

When we allow our minds to drift unfiltered, it can allow us to dig deeper inside of ourselves and learn more about how we feel and what are the underlying causes of said feelings. It is also a moment of peace when we can allow ourselves to “just be,” with no limitations.

How can we turn daydreaming into a powerful manifestation tool? Through visualization.

Visualization is simply getting a picture in your head about, well, anything. Whether it’s seeing the future you want for yourself or picturing in your mind what your dinner will be. By becoming clear on what it is we desire and want for our lives, it enables the universe to bring it into reality more efficiently. When you can see your dreams clearly, the pathway to them becomes coherent. Steps towards these dreams can be effectively planned and accomplished.

Have you ever imagined something the world needed and a few months later it was suddenly the “next big thing?” That’s the power of visualization at work! When you are passionate enough about something and start taking steps towards it, it will come to you naturally. The universe loves when people are passionate about their dreams and live their personal truths. You are meant to succeed, and by taking steps towards your own success, even just by picturing what it is you want for your reality, you will be rewarded.

In what ways can you utilize and start harnessing the powers of visualization? The possibilities are endless! Here are a few examples:

 

Picture Your Dream Home

Whether it’s a mansion, an apartment, tiny house, or tent in the woods; Where would you love to live? What space would you like to call your own? What color are the walls? Are there wood floors or carpeting? What does the yard look like?

 

Imagine the Person You Want to Be

If you have a clear picture on the type of person you want to be and the qualities you would like to possess, it enables the ability to start “living as if.” This means you can start taking these qualities and translating them into your own personality. Why wait to be your own role model? How are you not like that person you admire so much? Be the person you have always dreamed of in your day to day life!

 

Enhance Creativity

Come up with new inventions, art pieces, recipes… some of the best works were done in the dream realm. Harry Potter, “Yesterday” by the Beatles, Neil Bohr’s discovery of the structure of atoms….

 

Create a Happy Place

If you could be anywhere in the world, or dream-world, where would it be? What would you be standing on? What surrounds you? What does the sky or ceiling look like? What does it smell like? What does the air taste like? What do you hear? Go to this place when you wish to find a moment of peace and mental quiet. Sit in this space you’ve created for yourself and let the world melt away. You can do anything here and be anything here. By having a place like this, it makes it easier to translate these feelings into real life!

 

What are you waiting for? Grab some headphones, play some relaxing tunes, and get to daydreaming!

Commit To Yourself

Sometimes I wonder if the love comes after the commitment.

How often do you experience something new and feel a spark? Whether it’s talking to someone you resonate with, painting, writing a short story, creating a beautiful meal, etc. One day you decide you want to go back and do it again, but something is different. The same spark is gone. It might even be a bit more challenging this time.

I recently talked to someone who chases their dreams. He took risks and was rewarded for it by the universe. He was completely taken care of up to the point I talked to him last. I asked him what it felt like to be in the flow, always encouraged and provided for by the universe. He said it felt more like he was walking into the wind.

This led to a sudden awakening for me. All of my life I have been waiting for everything to flow. I had been looking for something to awaken my soul and suddenly everything would be laid out before me; I would progress through life easily and carefree. That is not how life works.

Every day I am given opportunities. Every day I pick and choose what is within my comfort zone, but taking risks is the only way to grow stronger. When I step out of my comfort zone and chase a spark I once felt, that is when I grow the most. That is when I gain experience, feel abundant and provided for, and open more doors.

It is rarely an easy task to face fears and go against the flow of what is comfortable, but once done, life is given new meaning. Hope is renewed and passion presents itself. Commit to what gives that initial spark. Run after it at full speed until all the barriers are broken and that spark turns into an all-encompassing light.

“I just have to take the first step.”

Live your Truth

When is the last time you lied? How did it make you feel after?

Did the person you lied to find out? How did they feel after?

Lying has become a natural part of everyday life for a lot of people. Whether it’s a constant stream of lies, big and small, or the little white lie from time to time.

No matter the form it comes in, lying will do nothing but harm. It puts an individual in a place of cognitive dissonance; holding two or more beliefs at once. This puts stress on the brain and inevitably, the body.

When we lie, that negative energy sends stress signals to the brain and gets stored as tension within the body. This causes headaches, trouble sleeping, muscle tension, and even sore throats as our vishuddhi (throat chakra) becomes closed off.

When the vishuddhi is blocked, it prevents an individual from expressing what they think and feel. This also blocks the flow of energy from the chakras below it, keeping one from expressing love for others and themselves. It also blocks the natural flow of giving, accepting, and receiving in all aspects of life.

Lying puts the liar in a cage, holding them back from living their personal truth. Have you ever lied about yourself out of fear of what others would think? How was your relationship with those people? When someone doesn’t speak their truth from the heart, it harms the relationships with those around them. It can even distance one from themselves, as they put themselves in categories and labels, limiting full potential.

Choosing to always speak the truth is vital to living an abundant, happy life. It will deepen relationships with others and with oneself. Doesn’t it feel amazing to express yourself fully, free of shameful feeling? You deserve to live that way all the time!

Start by addressing why it is you may lie. What situations are you in when lying occurs most often? Are there individuals you lie to more than others? Are there parts of yourself you hide through lies?

When you begin to break down why it is you may lie, you open up the floodgates to a life of self-love and living up to your fullest potential. Whatever it may be that causes you to lie: accept it, change it, or release it if it no longer serves you! Be you fully with no regrets, regardless of what people think. If you aren’t satisfied with your pumpkin spice latte, tell the barista! If you just got your first boyfriend/girlfriend but are afraid what your parents will think, tell them! They’ll find out eventually and will appreciate you telling the truth. Are you actual 45 instead of 25? Let the world know how many years, good or bad, you have made it through and how many more you will live being unregretfully you!

You deserve to live your best life. You deserve to love yourself and the environment you surround yourself with. Start letting that loving energy flow and live to your fullest truth.

“The real things haven’t changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong.”
Laura Ingalls Wilder

Thank you for reading! If you have any questions or comments feel free to post them below!

Danielle x